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Why Do People Elope? 6 Reasons To Have An Elopement

Updated: May 9


Why do people choose to elope instead of having a traditional wedding? What is eloping actually like? Is having an elopement right for you and your partner?


There are so many answers to these questions, and different people are going to tell you different things. It truly boils down to what matters most to you and your partner. What are the things that are most important to you? How are you going to have the BEST wedding day possible for you?


*Disclaimer: there is no "right" answer.* The answer will be different for everyone! No one deserves to feel pressured into a type of wedding that doesn't feel like them and that they don't want. Everyone should have a wedding day that is an authentic, meaningful representation of their relationship and is perfect for them- whether that's a traditional wedding or an elopement. The experience in which you say your vows to your partner, when you commit the rest of your life to them, matters. Your wedding day should be everything you've ever dreamed of (and more).


So... to help you decide if having an elopement is right for you, I compiled a list of 6 really great reasons to ditch the big wedding and to have an adventurous elopement instead.


1. Elopements are an intentional and intimate experience


When you elope, you have the freedom to be your truest self. There's no pressure, obligations, or stress. Many couples who elope want to escape the "production & performance" a big wedding often brings in exchange for something simpler and down to earth. Elopements allow you and your partner to have an authentic celebration of your love that truly represents your relationship. For many people, having a huge, traditional wedding isn't what they want. And that's totally okay. (Just like it's okay to want a traditional wedding!)


If you don't like to be the center of attention and the idea of having a big party with the focus of the day solely on you makes you break into a sweat- you don't have to do it. If you feel uncomfortable expressing your deepest emotions and most intimate promises to your partner in front of other people- don't. Instead, you can elope! Elopements create the opportunity to be incredibly comfortable and creates the space to say what you truly want to say in your vows. It takes away the pressure of people watching you and takes away any fear of judgment. Elopements strip everything away down to what really matters- two people exchanging their vows and celebrating their love for each other.


When you elope, you have WAY more time to spend with your partner. On a traditional wedding day, there is so much going on that it can be incredibly hard to have just a moment alone with your partner to soak in the day. With a hundred or so guests vying for your attention, time can quickly fly by. Elopements allow you to be with your partner the whole day. You two can spend the day together having the best time ever, reveling in the fact that you just got married and you get to spend the rest of your lives together!


Your wedding day should be reflective of the two of you- of the love you share and of the life you want to lead together. When you elope, you can have no distractions, no stress, no drama, regrets, or expectations- just two people committing the rest of their lives to one another.


2. Eloping focuses on experiences and adventure


People who elope tend to value experiences over material items. They would rather dedicate their time and money into having an intimate adventure, versus a big party. It's not that people who elope are unwilling to invest money into their wedding day, it's that they want to invest it in other ways. For some, its more important to spend their wedding day having an adventure (like hiking in the mountains, kayaking in a lake, traveling to a new country, exploring the beach or desert, or even taking a helicopter tour!) than it is to have a big party.


Life is meant to be an adventure. So, why not start off your marriage with an epic day full of new adventures? Just because having a big, traditional wedding seems like what you "have" to do, doesn't mean that's the case at all. If you're someone who dreams of new experiences and is constantly seeking new thrills- an elopement may be perfect for you.


Being adventurous isn't just skydiving and mountain climbing. It's a mindset. It's constantly striving to be better, learning from your mistakes and pushing yourself to grow. It's challenging the "norm", and forging your own path through life, no matter how hard that might be. It's following your heart and staying true to what you believe in. It's being brave and having a wedding day that is exactly what you want to do, even if it may be different.


If you could go anywhere in the world and do anything you wanted to do, where would you go and what would you do? What does a "perfect day" for you and your partner look like? Do you both love nature and love exploring outdoors? Are you foodies who love cooking and eating delicious food? Are you always planning trips to new, far-away places? When you elope, you can go anywhere and do anything. Maybe there's a place that has an indescribable pull on you, it's fundamental to you and your relationship and you could go there countless times- without ever growing tired of it. Maybe there's a place you've been dying to explore and dream of visiting. When you elope, the possibilities for your wedding day are endless.


3. Eloping eliminates expectations, obligations, stress, and drama


Elopements allow you to strip away every expectation and obligation that other people have of how your wedding day "should" look like. Let's face it- when you are getting married, everyone is going to have an opinion and tell you what you should and shouldn't do. Plus, the wedding industry makes you feel like there are so many things you *have* to do in order to have a successful, beautiful wedding. No matter what you decide, there's bound to be someone telling you it's the wrong choice. But guess what? That doesn't matter. Your wedding day should be exactly what you and your partner want- it truly doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. When you decide to elope, you are relieved of so much pressure and stress that comes with planning a large wedding. No longer are you conformed to complying with things that seem forced to you (goodbye standardized, cookie cutter traditions!!). Instead, you can design your day however you want.


Eloping also avoids any family drama. Not everyone has a family that they feel safe or comfortable being around or a family that supports them (not something you want on your wedding day!). Everyone deserves to be the happiest they can possibly be on the day they get married and feel completely comfortable while saying their vows. Even if you DO have a family that you love dearly, you can still choose to have an elopement and that's okay! If family drama is something you're concerned with, it doesn't have to be that way.


Plus, planning a wedding is incredibly stressful and can be very overwhelming! Not everyone wants to plan a huge party for 100-150 people, it's just too much. Too much logistics. Too much stress. Too much anxiety. Planning your wedding doesn't have to be a logistical nightmare that you end up dreading. (How many times have you heard a couple say that they "couldn't wait for this to be over"?). Believe it or not, you can have an experience that is 100% enjoyable without a hint of stress. Plan an elopement instead! Elopements aren't rushed, stressful events. Instead, they're relaxed, easy-going, and allow you to be fully present on your day. Instead of being about what everybody else wants, your wedding day becomes truly about celebrating the love you and your partner share. You have the ultimate freedom to decide what the day in which you exchange your vows looks like.


4. Eloping saves money and creates much less waste


Big, traditional weddings are becoming increasingly more expensive- the average cost to have a wedding in 2019 was $33,900. Now, let's break it down hourly. The average wedding timeline is around 8 hours, from getting ready, the wedding ceremony, cocktail hour, and the reception. That breaks down to it costing about $4,200 an hour! Crazy, right?!


Weddings also create a lot of waste. For a wedding with a guest list of around 100-120 people, there can be an average amount of 400-600 lbs of waste! Sound's pretty unbelievable right? But between invitations, name cards, programs, uneaten food, gift wrapping, decor, disposable dishes, etc (the list goes on and on), it can add up shockingly fast.


Not only are elopements more wallet-friendly, they are more environmentally friendly too!



5. Avoid the "wedding day blur", instead remember and appreciate every moment


Research has shown that 1 in 4 people don't remember exchanging their wedding vows. Many people say that their wedding day went by in such a blur, that's it's hard to remember it. This is a completely understandable problem. In a big wedding, there is so much going on- there are so many people to see, things to do, logistics to manage, and about a million different things calling for your attention. In a state of constant stimulus, it is extremely hard to focus and make lasting memories.


It doesn't have to be that way! Your wedding day doesn't have to be a stressful, busy event. Instead, it can be a day full of intimacy and intention, focused on celebrating your relationship and love. Eloping allows you to be fully present on your wedding day, soaking in every single moment and experience that the day brings.


At first glance, having every single person you care about in the same room on your wedding day sounds fantastic. However, it can be hard to actually get the chance to be with every single one of them for any meaningful amount of time. The average wedding reception is four to five hours, and the average wedding guest count is 120 people. So let's say your reception is five hours and you want to spend an equal amount of time talking to each person, that gives you 2.5 minutes per person (that's not counting speeches, dinner, cake, dancing, and any other activities you have planned). With an intimate wedding or elopement, you can still invite people (just typically a lot less). When you invite only your closest friends and family, you have so much more time to spend with them and to talk with them-making every moment count.


6. Photography


Elopements produce beautiful photos full of true, raw emotion and showcase intimate, real moments. Elopement photography captures the true essence of a relationship and love that two people share. There's no rushed, awkward poses, or forced emotion just to get "the shot". No faked laughter. No "okay, now look at me and smile... now look at each other". No feelings of discomfort.


How is it so different?


Elopements allow you the opportunity to be your truest self. You have the time and the freedom to feel every emotion and are able to not hold anything back. Elopements allow your photographer the time to capture beautiful, authentic moments (without having to fabricate them). When you elope, there's a lot more time for you to get comfortable. There's more time to capture the little cheek kisses, the hand holding, the soft smiles, and genuine laughter. Elopements are much more relaxed and you can truly enjoy the moment. When you are stress-free and having a blast, amazing photographs naturally follow. As your photographer, I'm your adventure buddy- along for the ride, documenting the two of you having the time of your lives.


Photographs are powerful. They have the ability to transport you to the moment they were taken- allowing you to relive that particular memory over and over again. Elopements allow for the opportunity to have photographs of real, genuine moments that reflect all of your emotions and can be cherished forever.


As an adventure wedding and elopement photographer, I help couples who live adventurously and love fearlessly plan their elopements and then tag along to document every moment of it. Want to see what a real elopement is really like? Check out this hiking elopement in the Mount Baker Wilderness or read about Everything You Need To Know Before Your Hiking Elopement.


Hi! My name is Kathleen and I'm an adventure wedding and elopement photographer (and your new friend!). I'm here to help guide you to having the ultimate wedding day experience, and to document every single moment of it. I would love to help you plan your elopement and answer any questions you may have!


Get in touch with me and let's start planning your dream adventure.


CONTACT ME HERE!


Kathleen Elizabeth Photography

Washington Adventure Elopement Photographer

Photographing couples across Washington and the Western United States

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